What makes a woman beautiful?

“Things are beautiful if you love them.” Jean Anouilh

Is female beauty an inborn gift? Is it genetics that makes a woman charming? Well, I really doubt it. Some women, of course, are born with lucky genetics, but I strongly believe that it takes effort and time to really be one.

I used to meet hundreds of women when I actively worked as a relationship counselor. Some of my female clients were gorgeous, other were classically beautiful, some were just pretty, and even a few who looked kind of indifferent to how they looked- All women belonged to very different genetics types, but somehow I often caught myself on making mind notes: This woman is gorgeous, while that one is just pretty. Every time in such moments I was wondering: How could I identify beauty? And also, what secret makes this woman look gorgeous, while that one is just good looking?

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I started reading about the topic. First of all, I learned with surprise that what makes all people agree about female beauty is- facial averageness! Multiple experiments brought cientists to a conclusion that the common factors producing the “sense” of female beauty are: facial averageness (how much/little a woman’s face deviates from traditionally accepted norm), facial sexual-dimorphism (how traditionally “feminine” a woman’s face is), facial maturity (how young the face looks), and facial fluctuating asymmetry (how inherently symmetrical the face is). The faces most consistently rated as “prettiest” by both men and women were the most symmetrical.

Sounds quite boring, doesn’t it? According to science, the best thing to do for a woman who wants to look beautiful is to learn what is accepted as an average “norm of beauty”, and start from there. Still, I believe that it is a woman’s unique image that makes her really attractive. A beautiful woman has charm. And charm is uniqueness. It may be a little birth mark on the upper lip, or a curly strand of hair falling on her forehead, or a peculiar shape of her eyebrows – something that pushes her out of the norm rather than keeps her in the crowd. A woman who managed to find her peculiar trait and knows how to use it to her advantage, will certainly hear behind her shoulder some day, “Oh, what a beauty! She’s gorgeous!”

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