How to Attract a Woman: Some First Date Ideas

Every guy wants to be able to attract women, but quite often this task proves to be more difficult than it seems at the first sight. To simplify the task, let us take a look at the woman’s expectations of the first date. A man who knows how attraction works from a female perspective can develop a successful approach to building the desired connection with his girlfriend.

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1. First of all, you should never forget that women are attracted to confident men. A confident man tends to perform more successfully in every element of his life and the woman will never fail to notice and appreciate this. She seeks a strong, protective shoulder (even if she states something different). Your confident look and behavior will certainly attract her attention.

2. Women are attracted to men, who take good care of their looks. This does not mean that the guy must be handsome (I have heard quite opposite confessions from women, by the way), but a nice-looking, neat, well-dressed guy, who is apparently not indifferent to his hair, skin, clothes, and style, has a lot more potential with women.

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3. Every woman loves men, who can control their own facial expressions, gestures, bodily reactions, and general behavior. If you remain good-tempered and smiling during the first date, you have very good chances that she will grow attracted to you.

4. Your walk plays an important role, too. If you still don’t have it, try and develop a pace of a busy, self-respecting man. The good news is that you can learn such skills quite quickly and use them with success in every other aspect of your life.

5. Keeping eye contact with your woman and doing it naturally is a good tip, too. At all times, try to look natural. When meeting a new person, many of us feel shy and even a little uncomfortable. If you train yourself not to show your nervousness, this skill will soon become a part of your success image, and will work in your favor in all situations of communication.

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If you have these simple, but powerful skills, you will little by little develop a new image of a confident, successful person, and I am sure your women will adore it.

Now, let us take a quick look at a few common first-date mistakes which prevent men from being successful with women. These notes were made by Slavic women while they were looking at pictures of first dates. You may not agree with these notes, but this is how women see it!

a) “This guy looks like he is a bit narcissistic, he must be talking too much about his chores, which makes the whole date quite boring. Also, he slouches, which produces a subconscious feeling that the man has no backbone.” Nadya T.

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b) “This lad is too relaxed, and he is certainly there for his own pleasure. I would not go out with him another time, he is too self-centered. A polite guy whould at least try to show his girl that he is there for her, not just for his own fun.” Alina B.

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c) “It seems this guy does not know what to do with his girl. Probably, he has been through some failures with women before, and now he is simply afraid to do or say anything. I am pretty sure this woman is thinking about a polite excuse to finish the date and go home. The guy looks nice and smart, by the way. I think he could be a great man for some woman, but he needs to overcome his fears first.” Oxana N.

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d) “This guy looks quite confident, and he certainly knows how to date. But it seems he is a little too fast to use his hands… you know what I mean. He has no other thoughts and he can’t talk about anything else but sex. The romance of the moment is lost and the girl is moving away from him, you see? I think he failed to show her his personality. Life, and even dating, is not only about sex.” Olga K.

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e) “Oh, no! No-no-no! This is the biggest mistake to make! The rule No.1 of dating says: focus on your woman, and only on her! You can’t look at other girls in such moments! This is impolite to your woman, not to say more.” Olga K.

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f) “Apparently, this man talks too much about himself. The dinner has not begun yet and the girl is already bored to death. The guy looks nice, he must be a successful and confident type, but it does not look like he carres about his woman at all.” Irina V.

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g) “This guy must be an inexperienced type, or maybe he belongs to those always-nice, modest, righteous guys… I don’t know… I think he should be thankful to this woman for being brave and taking the first step torward him. If she did not kiss him, he would never dare to approach her. In fact, she is showing him what we, women, like so much: the spontaneous action, driven by desire. Why not? In my opinion, a smart guy would never move away from the woman at such moment.” Zhanna P.

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g) “Oh, I remember that scene… I felt really sorry for that guy in the scene, because he looked so nice, very well-bred, and he was so patient and understanding. But I think he could perform a bit better if he took control of the situation from the very beginning. He is a bit too modest… no, rather, he looks… mm… indecisive. I also think he could wear a shirt of a brighter color… this would make him a bit more noticeable. Women are attracted to bright personalities, and this guy is just…mm ordinary.” Alla R.

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A Few Things Creative People Do

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I have been thinking, what are the distinguishing qualities of a creative person? Why do we call one person “creative” and another… just a “skilled” or “hard-working” guy? I have come up with these answers. These are the things that creative people always do:

  1. They concentrate on and “listen” to their inner self;
  2. They are not afraid to make up their mind and change their decisions;
  3. They tend to connect ideas, which other people find incompatible;
  4. Creative people tend to surround themselves with beauty, they have a physical need to see, hear, smell and sense beautiful things every day;
  5. They hate borders, especially mental borders that keep them within the frames of “well-set” approaches;
  6. Creative people often fail to follow time limitations. In fact, it is not them, but the time itself that fails to develop the same pace as the creative person’s mind does;
  7. Quite often, creative people become victims of their own desires, but this does not discourage them;
  8. They often take problems and failures as opportunities to start something new;
  9. They look at every event taking place around them as a way of self-expression;
  10. Creative people observe the world and the people around themselves, and find inspiration in them;
  11. Failure only makes them more curious;
  12. Creative people question everything that they see or hear around;
  13. Creative people seek for new impressions and emotional activity as thurstily as they look for beauty;
  14. they work only in the hours which are convenient to their personal “mental rhythms”; and
  15. They dream.

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Alan Jankowski: ‘We Shall Never Forget’

I could not believe it when I saw the three letters R.I.P. on his Facebook timeline. I thought it was someone’s clumsy joke, a part of a jest talk, of which he was so fond of. I scrolled down his timeline and saw the intrusive letters again and again, and then more words began to clear up through the hum in my head: “Stunned by the loss…”, “I’ll never forget…”, “Good bye, dear friend…”

We were not even friends. We never met or had business together. He was just a Facebook connection, but he was the one in a thousand, you know, the one for whose posts you check up your Facebook three times a day…

I guess he was one of those wierd guys – a poet, a writer, a heretic, a dirty martini fan, a guy who could see the world from a different angle. A man with a great sense of humor and a big, kind, loving, and constantly bleeding heart.

I wish I had known him better.

Today, what is left for us is this short Facebook Intro –

  • Works at Professional bum

  • Studied at The University of Hard Knocks

  • Went to John F. Kennedy Memorial High School

  • Lives in Parlin, New Jersey

  • From Colonia, New Jersey

  • Followed by 894 people

and a bunch of his poems, like this:

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I guess I really can’t blame them.
How could they be expected to know the truth,
When all they see is some well-rehearsed smile,
That I have been putting on in the morning,
Like a clean shirt.
I think I have it down to a science,
I’ve been doing it for so long.
I’ve polished my act to where I almost fool myself sometimes,
Yet at times the sadness slips through to the world.
My mother asked me the other day if I was doing drugs again,
As if that ever really worked,
Things should really be that easy for just once,
I think to myself, ‘How could they not know?’
And yet at times I think maybe I should just tell them.
But, how do you express the hurt that goes deep inside?
How do you express how you really feel?
When you don’t know how you really feel yourself.
Sometimes I just feel so numb to the world,
Or maybe, it’s just the fear of the unknown,
As if it could really get any worse.
Maybe I’m just afraid of giving up my hurt,
When at times it seems that hurting is all I’ve got.
Perhaps the only thing I do well.
Yet at times I’d really like to tell someone,
But how could I make them understand?
Sometimes I think I should just hold up a big neon sign,
That says ‘Hurting’ in big, bright letters.
All electric blue with just a tinge of blood red,
And then maybe someone will notice,
And then maybe someone will care,
But then again, why should they?
Why should they care?
After all, it’s not their job,
They don’t get paid to care.
But wait…I know what I’ll do.
As the storms begin to build inside my head,
Like a thief robbing me of any peace I might have had,
And as the thunder starts to clamor in my mind,
It’s very dissonance drowning my every thought,
I’ll walk boldly into those very storms,
With my neon sign held high above my head,
And as the thunder bursts around me,
And the pouring rain soaks me to the skin,
And when the lightning bolts brighten up the sky,
I will no longer fear a thing,
For as the lightning strikes my neon sign,
And the electric shocks surge through my rain soaked body,
And the pain overtakes me from head to toe,
It will be the first time I’ve really felt anything in years,
Perhaps for the first time ever.
And as the last bit of life drains from my wet body,
I will be free at last.
And as my soul leaves my lifeless form,
To venture forth into the unknown,
And the unknown will welcome me with open arms,
Taking me in like a true friend,
And the unknown will provide me with shelter and comfort,
Perhaps for the first time ever.
And as the rains continue to pour down upon me,
All the hurt shall be washed away
And all the pain shall be felt no more,
For all my struggles shall cease in an instant,
And every unrequited love shall remain so,
And every broken promise shall remain broken,
And all the hatred directed towards me shall miss its mark,
And every resentment harbored shall be set aside,
And every tear shall be forced to find a new home,
And as I look down upon my dead body,
I can watch all my so-called friends gather round,
They’ll probably rummage through my pockets,
And fight over who gets my new sneakers,
Then again, why should they care?
After all, it’s not their job.

12-13-10.

 

 

The Unknown, but Gorgeous Sights of Ukraine

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Recently, Ukraine has been known mostly as a huge 40-million country to the east from Europe, which is being continuously challenged by geopolitical battles taking place in and around it. At the same time, numerous facts about the country are never brought up by any media, and today I would like to focus on Ukraine’s beautiful nature, because- what can be better than spending a vacation in a quiet place away from large cities, with beautiful nature behind the window and a plate of the most tasty food on your table after a long walk in the fresh, crispy air?

Here are a few sights of Ukraine you have probably never heard of.

The above photo features Kolochava village, which is called the longest village in Ukraine, as it stretches along the hills to 40km! There are ten ethno-museums located in the village, so you will never be bored there.

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The name of Bakota village in Khmelnitskiy region is translated as “an always desired place”. It used to be the capital of Podillya back in the 13-th century, then it survived a very big many of historical events and today it is a small tourist place for those who love moderate climate and peaceful rest in the mountains.

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Dzembroniya village in Ivano-Frankivsk region is called “a place where clouds are born”. Famous Ukrainian poets and writers used to stay here to get inspiration from its gorgeous nature.

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Mezin, Chernihiv region lies on the side of Desna river. Archaeological findings of Paleolite epoch attract scientists and tourists here. The beautiful forests located around the village have gained it a second name – “Mezinska Switserland”.

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Oposhnya (Poltava region) is also one of the most picturesque areas of the country. It is also a Mekka for ceramists and potters.

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Iza (in Zakarpattya) is the center of basket-weaving. You can learn the craft here, right from the local masters, and also Iza is famous for producing the best cheeses ever!

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Strusov, a village in Ternopyl region, is a beloved place for many travelers. The place has a long and the most exciting history, which has become immortal due to the ancient cave-church of St.Anthony and an old castle of Knight Goluhovsky.

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Kamennoye village in Zhytomir region is regarded the healthiest place in the world, where everyone can heal their diseases. You will find a beautiful hodgepodge of huge rocks with natural caves that look like houses (though nobody lives there); the mysterious landscape of the place has given way to numerous legends, ballads and tales.

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Trikraty (Mykolaiv region) is associated with a kossack family of Skarzhynski, one of whom devoted his life to studying botany and local plants. There are three famous nature parks in the area, and a beautiful Aktovsky Canyon, also known as “Devil’s Valley”.

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In Lviv area, the old castle of Pidhirtsy has been called the local “Galician Versailles”. Right near and around the castle, a beautiful parkland and St.Josef Roman Catholic church are located.

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Roztoki (Chernivtsy region) is a beautiful landscape nature park with its seven Bukovinski waterfalls and gorgeous hilly forests everywhere around.

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A blue-water lake Synevir and a tiny village around it attracts those who seek the fresh air and peaceful vacation away from people and civilization.

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Cherkassy region has its own peaceful corner: Morintsy village with a museum of Taras Shevchenko, the most beloved Ukrainian poet, painter and thinker, who was born here.

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Trypillya (Tripole) is a worldly known town today due to the archaeological findings made by Vikentiy Hvoika, who excavated numerous items of the previously unknown ancient culture.Hvoika’s sensational discovery brought lots of attention to the place. Today, there are two museums in the town, where tourists can learn about the unique culture of the ancient local dwellers.

This list is certainly not full. Ukraine is uniquely rich in natural sights, qunique cultural traditions, and history, so everyone who is interested is welcome to visit and is guaranteed to never be bored here.

The Russian Language Survival Guide

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This one-page guide to basic Russian phrases will help you on your trip to the Russian-speaking cities.

Russian Language Survival Guide

English Russian Pronunciation
Good day/hello. Добрый день. Dobry den’
Hi/hello. Привет. Privet
Good evening. Добрый вечер. Dobry vechir
Goodbye. / Goodnight. До свиданья. Da svidan’a
See you. До встречи. Da fstrechi
Yes. Да. Da
No. Нет. Net
You’re welcome. Пожалуйста. Pzhalsta
Thank you. Спасибо. Spasiba
How much? Сколько? Skol’ka
I don’t understand. Не понимаю. Ni panimaju
Cheers! На здоровье! Na zdarovie
Can I have the bill/check? Счёт, (пожалуйста). Schot (pzhalsta)
Beer пиво piva
Water вода vada
Wine / vodka Вино / водка Vino / votka
May I? Можно? Mozhna?
Good. Хорошо. Harasho.
Excellent! Отлично! Atlichna.
Bad. Плохо. Ploha.
So-so. Так себе. Tak sibe.
Excuse me. Простите. Prastiti.
I don’t speak Russian. Не говорю по-русски. Ni gavaru pa ruski.
I’d like to… Я бы хотел… Ja by hatel
buy купить kupit’
I need your help, please. Помогите, (пожалуйста). Pamagiti (pzhalsta)
Where is…? Где…? Kde
Please,… Извините,… Izviniti
I don’t know. Не знаю. Ni znaju
Sorry. Извините. Izviniti

 

 

A Few Facts About the English Language in Russian

 

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Несколько интересных фактов об английском языке, собранных с разных сайтов в Интернет. 

1. Английское слово «alphabet» происходит от названия первых двух букв греческого алфавита «alpha» и «beta».

2. В предложении «The quick brown fox jumps over the lazy dog» можно встретить каждую букву алфавита.

3. «I am» и «I do» — самые короткие предложения в английском языке с подлежащим и сказуемым.

4. В старые времена на протяжении определённого времени амперсэнд (символ “&”, в английском языке означающий союз “и”) был буквой английского алфавита.

5. Самые распространенные буквы в английском языке – это R, S, T, L, N, E. Реже всего используется буква Q.

6. Точка над буквой «i» в английском языке называется tittle (малейшая частица/капелька).

7. Самым длинным словом в английском языке, согласно Оксфордскому английскому словарю, является слово pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanoconiosis (обозначает болезнь легких, в слове 45 букв).

8. Самые длинные односложные слова в английском языке – это “screeched” (визгливо крикнуть) and “strengths” (сильные стороны).

9. «Almost» (почти) – самое длинное слово английского языка, в котором все буквы расположены в алфавитном порядке.

10. В английском языке есть слово с одной и той же гласной, которая повторяется 5 раз – «indivisibility» (единство, невозможность отделить).

11. “Four” (четыре) – единственное числительное в английском языке, количество букв которого соответствует обозначаемому числу.

12. Слово “set” (в значениях существительного и глагола) имеет больше значений, чем любое другое слово в английском языке.

13. Слова «racecar» (гоночная машина), «kayak» (каяк/байдарка) и «level» (уровень) являются полиндромами, то есть одинаково пишутся и читаются справа налево и слева направо.

14. Единственное слово в английском языке состоящее из 15 букв в котором буквы не повторяются “uncopyrightable” (не охраняемый авторским правом).

15. Ни одно слово в английском языке не рифмуется со словами «month», «orange», «silver» и «purple».

16. Буквосочетание “ough” в английском языке может читаться девятью различными способами. Следующее предложение содержит их все: “A rough-coated, dough-faced, thoughtful ploughman strode through the streets of Scarborough; after falling into a slough, he coughed and hiccoughed.”

17. Самое функциональное слово в английском языке – это «shit». (О способах его использования подробно можно прочитать здесь http://www.funfacts.com.au/the-most-functional-word-in-the-english-language/ )

18. В английском языке больше всего слов (около 800 000) и самые богатые синонимические ряды. Американский президент Бенджамин Франклин собрал более 200 синонимов слова «пьяный» (англ. drunk), включая такие «шедевры» как «cherry-merry», «nimptopsical» и «soaked».

19. Самая сложная скороговорка в английском языке – это “The sixth sick sheik’s sixth sheep’s sick”.

20. Согласно закону штата Иллиной (Illinois), в штате запрещено говорить по-английски – официальным языком здесь принято считать американский.

21. «God be with ye»- полная версия слова «goodbye».

22. Древнейшее слово в английском языке – town (городишко), означает, как правило, городок с населением не более 5 тысяч человек

23. Со словами month, orange, silver, purple, английские поэты не могут найти рифму.

24. В одной верхней строке клавиатуры можно набрать английское слово «typewriter».

25. Когда-то слово «pants» считалось ругательным в Англии, теперь его используют на каждом шагу.

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Golden Marriage Howto: Ukrainian Experience

Ukrainian sociologists recently conducted an interesting research: they met and interviewed dozens of couples who have lived together happily for 50 years and more. Traditionally, a marriage that lasts as long as 50 years is called a “golden marriage” here, and most of those people are over 70 today. The couples were interviewed all over the country; they have shared their “secrets” of stable relationships.

Among their stories, there are many sad, uneasy, and even dramatic epizodes, but every couple confirmed that they went through the hardships together. All in all, the interviewers could pick out three main features which were common for all couples that helped them remain together-

  • sharing pains and hardships;
  • tact; and
  • hugging daily.

Amazing, isn’t it? One may say, “How can it be that simple?” Yet this is true! I think those people simply learned to take each other’s emotions, troubles and chores as their own (maybe even higher), while mutual respect and daily hugs worked to cement the relationships and lead them through life.

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Russians Hate Relationship Coaching

I just ran across a Facebook post, which attracted my attention. A young woman wrote on her timeline: “An author of a book about harmony in family life shot his wife and published photos of the body on the Internet; Dale Carnegie, the author of “How to Win Friends and Influence People” died in loneliness; Benjamin Spock, the author of numerous books about bringing up kids, was nearly put in a nursing home by his own sons, and a Korean bestselling author of “How to Be Happy” hanged herself of depression. In fact, this is all I know about the personal growth trainings.”

Kind of sad, isn’t it? Well, the fact is: Russians don’t like psychologists. There is no tradition of visiting counselors and advisers, like many Westerners use to do. Family issues are considered very personal, and so, they can only be trusted – if ever at all – to a closest friend. Reading books about relationships is not a traditional thing, either. Some people – mainly women – would read a book once in a while and discuss it with friends, but still, majority of the Russians make relationship decisions mainly based on intuition and on previously acquired personal experiences.

In my practice as a relationship coach, I have seen numerous couples of a Russian woman and a foreign man. The men would frequently love talking to a coach, while Russian women tend to close up and refuse from any contact with psychologists at all. So, coaching for couples is practically impossible in Russia, which makes the western men even more curious about listening to an expert in mysterious Russian character.

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