How to Spot a Liar?

Today, in the world of Internet, television and incredible variety of communication tools and technologies, we may easily deal with hundreds – even thousands – of people daily. Some people talk to us in the office, others meet us at home and in the streets, some share the news with us, and many – really many – look at us from screens set up everywhere, to share information, advertisement or advice. Still, with all this enormously intense daily communication, many of us still have difficulties identifying whether we are being told the truth or not. Let us look at the signs which surely give out a liar.

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Liars are the people who often say one thing and mean another. If you suspect someone of lying to you, keep a close eye on what they are doing with their body language.

More often than not, a lying person will look troubled about something. Liars look as if they are in hurry, and when you start asking questions, they may start getting defensive. If you catch a liar on the fact that some things about their story simply don’t add up, they will grow irritated and change the subject abruptly. At some point during the dialog, they may start rambling – even an experienced liar does this once in a while. Here is one more quite noticeable sign: while telling you lies, such people prefer to keep physical distance from you.

There are a few interesting observations about the liars’ typical body language. The most glaring are these:

  • Liars change their head position when you ask them a direct question (this will happen right before they respond to your question);

  • Their breathing changes and their shoulders may raise a little bit as they speak; the voice may also raise a little;
  • Quite often, a lying person begins to fidget nervously, but according to some scientists, you should also watch out for people who are not moving at all. If you observe a rigid stance devoid of movement, it is often a huge warning sign that something is not right.
  • When liars lie, they tend to repeat words or phrases.
  • Trying to sound plausible, a liar will often tend to share too much information with lots of excess details.
  • As a self-protection instinct, liars may touch or cover their mouths while speaking; they may also instinctively cover vulnerable body parts – the throat, chest, head, or abdomen. You may also catch them on shuffling their feet while speaking.
  • There may be long moments when a liar will stare at you without blinking. Commonly, when we are not experts at lying, we tend to break eye contact, but an “expert” liar could choose to maintain eye contact in attempt to control and manipulate you.

  • Also, it is a known fact that while lying, people tend to point a lot. A liar, who has become hostile or defensive, will certainly attempt to turn the tables on you, because they are angry that you’ve discovered their lies, and then they will try to be very convincing, which may result in a lot of pointing.

I hope these little tips will help you avoid unpleasant situations in the future and you will quickly identify a liar at the very beginning of the conversation.

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  1. My general experience of systematic liars is that they couldn’t care less – ‘the world is hard and cruel so to get ahead, I’ll be hard and cruel’. The recently released movie ‘The Founder’, on the founder of McDonald’s, is an excellent example.
    I have asked several women ‘How can you tell if someone is lying to you?’ Their answer was always the same ‘I don’t listen to what HE is saying, I look at HIS eyes.’
    My hero is Diogenes – even the light of a candle in daylight in the agora failed to reveal to him one honest person. We all, frequently, have to lie and I think the best way to accept this in our lives is to always try to balance that fact in relation to ‘Behave towards others as we would wish they behave towards us.’

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    • Thank you for your comment, Philip, I agree with your words, especially in the part about balancing between having to lie sometimes and treating others the way we would like to be treated. I have been following your posts lately and would like to thank you for sharing lots of wise and very important thoughts. Wishing you to have a wonderful day! Regards, Rina.

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      • Thank you Rina, I always look forward to reading your posts. Those on language teaching are very interesting to me because I am very keen, once I get my thesis finished, to focus on teaching English (I have already done one CELTA course). Best wishes, Philip

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