What Is So Unique About Slavic Women?

During a whole decade in my past career I had to answer this question so many times that I kind of grew bored of it. But, knowing that majority of my English speaking readers are very interested in the topic, I feel bound to write about it again, this time – surprisingly to myself – with a new, revised vision. Further on in this article I will be using the term “Russian women” as a traditional, internationally accepted name for all Slavic women of Russia, Ukraine, and other former Soviet territories. Some time in the future we can talk about national differences between Slavic women, but here we will only list some common features, which make this large group of women so passionately desired by foreign men and which nurture a whole thriving industry of Russian brides’ related services.

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Okay, first things first:

1. Russian women have been known as incredibly attractive. They are aware of this and they skillfully use beauty to their advantage. I have seen numerous popular and academic articles, providing explanations to the fact, but here, to save time, I suggest that we take this statement as an axiom.

2. Russian women do care about how they look. In addition to just knowing that they are beautiful, they invest time into being beautiful, and they do this all their life long, which develops a certain mindset: they self-develop, self-observe, self-study, self-educate… whatever you call it, the fact is: each Russian woman develops through time, because she cares about how other people see her. Good or bad, this is a fact.

3. Russian women value their femininity, but at the same time, they don’t care for feminism. This paradox can be easily explained: during the Soviet era Russian women were considered 100% equal with men (they were called “tovarisch” (comrade), there were no gender-specific terms, fashion used to be nearly prohibited during the epoch of the USSR, using makeup and being fashionable was nearly equaled to deliberate destruction of socialist morals, etc.), so Russian women had more than enough of it. They were happy when in the early 1990s the Russian society bounced back to “traditional family values” of pre-communist times.

4. Russian (and especially Ukrainian) women are very family oriented. Every woman realizes that she can only be happy when there is a man by her side. They are ready to sacrifice time, energy, and everything they have into building a family. Many of them are open to going out with older men because older men are more serious about family values than skinny young lads, whose only interests are fun, drinking, and sex. Also, Russian women know how to be polite, intelligent, humorous, or nice: again, all these are parts of their family-building “program”.

5. Due to their cultural and historical roots, most of Russian women are very entrepreneurial; each Russian woman is open to building a career, traveling, fulfilling all sorts of her dreams along with being married and having kids.

6. A good news for men is the fact that Russian brides allow men to court them and even more: they like it. She will not be insulted if you open a door in front of her or give her a hand, on the opposite: she expects you to do this. It seems natural for her to accept men’s help and attention, so she wants you to court her, protect her, spoil her, and take care of her. She knows the fact: a man will never truly appreciate a woman he did not invest in, so she gives you a chance to feel masculine and all-mighty in front of her.

7. One more distinctive feature, which is true practically of all Rusian women is their attitude to their families: they put family first above everything else. Don’t ever talk smack about her relatives. If you behave smartly, you will get the same treatment someday, too.

8. Russian women are quite straightforward and are not afraid to vocalize their thoughts. This is a good thing is a relationship: it creates the necessary openness in communication.

9. Russian women are ready to struggle for their happiness: whatever her personal image of happiness is, she will protect it and pursue it like a real warrior, until she gets what the wants.

10. This is an interesting observation about Russians and Ukrainians: if you become a part of her family, her parents will probably care more about you than your own family. Yes, this is true.

11. Most of Russian girls – even the youngest of them – are very smart. A Russian girl is raised to think, act, and live independently. If she wants nice clothes, jewelry, a good bookshelf, and a cozy home, she knows she will have to earn the money to buy those things herself, and that means getting education and job, and then working hard until she gets what she desires.

12. Many Russian women are a tireless hustlers, they know how to work hard, and they are adventurous enough to play hard.

13. Many Russian women are dreamers, and they remain dreamers till the end of their lives. A good dream, when turned into a plan, makes her happy, and even just dreaming of the better future keeps her depression away. Many women are known for being very positive in their approach towards life. She will wear a smile even in the worst situations, just to show her partners and family that everything is good.

We could possibly find more distinguishing features, and if you do, you are welcome to share your thoughts in the comments below. Any discussion of the topic is highly appreciated, because it can lead us all to very exciting ideas and conclusions.

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  1. Alex

     /  January 9, 2017

    You painted a very “cupcake” picture of “Russian girl or woman”. Of cause, I did not conduct serious research on this subject. However, I observed and date some of them for a long time in US. A lot of them are what you say “family oriented”, but there are also a lot who are simply looking for a “support”(i.e gold deagers). They expect men to provide everything for them and babysit just because of the fact. Those one still not satisfied. Every person is different. Russian girl doesn’t mean its some kind of badge of honor:)

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    • You are right. Alex. My post is a very general outline of main features characterizing Slavic women. Every feature I listed can manifest itself in all sorts of ways in real life situations. A woman may be family oriented in her mind, but in given conditions she would display her other qualities. I think what you saw was an example of a very practical-minded woman – smart, untrepreneurial, quick-minded, rather straightforward – who was trying to push her way through in tough American life.

      In my article, I tried not to use any “good-vs-bad” scales, I tried to neutrally outline the main characteristics of the Slavic women as a big ethnic group. Certainly, they can display themselves in very different ways in real life: one may love or hate what these women do, but the behavior patterns will remain the same, they will reappear again and again in every Slavic woman you meet. So, it is up to you to decide whether you want to communicate with them or not.

      Thank you very much for your post. Your words gave me an idea about researching and writing new articles on how Russian women adapt to living abroad and also about some hardly understandable traits of Slavic women. You are welcome to connect with me via my FB account (https://www.facebook.com/RomanticRussianOnline) to follow these articles. Thank you!

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