What Women Want

I thought it might be interesting to create a collection of famous quotes about women, so I am going to publish little notes and quotes about women now and then here. This is a quote by Eleanor Roosevelt, which I have always found very witty:

A woman is like a tea bag – you can’t tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water

This is so true. Sometimes we, women, don’t know how strong we are until life tests us really hard. When life is smooth, a woman does not have to show her power; she is fine with the reputation of being a weaker one. Moreover, some wise women enjoy displaying their weakness.

The gift of real gracefullness is not given to us by nature; it is developed with time, it should be acquired like education. Real grace is a result of a long self-study, and like every other gift, it makes an individual unique. The women who understand the power of being weak are always smart and strong. I would not dare to test such a woman: she may be as strong as any man, and even stronger.

rob-herreran - a woman

Romantic Russian Phrase Book finally on sale

Many relationship psychologists are familiar with the term RW/AM relationships. The RW/AM means Russian woman & American man. Yep, however funny this may sound, the differences between the two cultures are immense, yet still immense is their attraction to each other. The boosting development of RW/AM dating industry (and it IS a multimillion insudtry today) made experts give the problem a serious study. Thousands of couples are known to fail in setting up understanding at a very young stage of relationships because they simply don’t understand the motives of each other’s behavior.

So many times in the practice as a relationship counselor I heard from men: “I don’t understand why she is so reserved-” or from women: “I would like him to be more consistent-” These seemingly little misunderstandings are really dangerous, though: they signal about threatening overal misinterpretations of each other. Quite often, I knew simple ways to fix the problem in the very beginning, but this was possible only when both parties were open to learning more about each

other’s cultures.romantic-couple

The Romantic Rusian Phrase Book was written back then, in 2008, but it waited for its time in my table for years. Now, when it is availavle on amazon.com with a look inside option, I finally got the feeling that finally got what it had deserved long before. It is not only about the language, it is rather not about the language. I tried to show the phrase book users how they can use very little knowledge of common things about each other to develop a solid basis for mutual understanding. I guess this must be similar to living hand in hand with Spanish speakers: when you are familiar with their culture, and when you know a few words to demonstrate this to them, they become more open, they welcome you into communication.

This is even more so with Russians. They melt with pleasure when they hear that a foreigner can say a few words in Russian. I saw this hundreds of times during my practice as a relationship counselor for RW/AM couples. Now, I am glad that the phrase book is finally out in book stores and can serve to hundreds of couples in their romantic Russian adventures.

Here is a link for those who would like to sheck it up or review: http://www.amazon.com/Romantic-Russian-Phrase-Book-Love-ebook/dp/B017T0MXTY/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1447428647&sr=8-1&keywords=romantic+russian+phrase+book

Being a general in the army of letters

Here is a little note from grammarly.com. There is nothing special in these tips, of course, but still- it drives my attention to my little faithful soldiers – commas, full stops. semicolons, articles. I look down at them like a general looks at his army from the top of a hill. I talk to my “soldiers” while I work, I give them orders: “Stay here!” or “What are you doing here? Move to the end of the sentence!” This is my way of surviving through the boredom of proofreading. What is yours?
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Tug of a new novel

Does it only happen to me or is it a common thing? I have not finished polishing my previous novel yet, but that hum of a new plot is already sitting deep in my head and disturbing me like hell! If I don’t start writing in the nearest time, I am going to blow up. On such days, my mind is a moving kaleidoscope, and I am inside it, small and vulnerable, crawling between my own ideas, risking to be smashed, but unable to run away. Scary? Yeah, a bit. The only way out of that kaleidoscope leads me to my table- sugesting to sit down and trust it all to paper.

At this “kaleidoscope” stage I may write numerous sketches: unconnected brain droppings, images, short scenes, fantasies- with all the disturbance it gains me, I love this stage, because it is very similar to dreaming. At times, it captures me so much that I cannot differentiate between dreaming and reality without making a special effort. Human mind is a mysterious thing, indeed.

A new novel is testing my patience these days. I don’t know how much I can hold it before I run to my table and start writing. Maybe till tonight-

with the eye of an artist

Good writing formula

Litcritics love talking about the role a writer / poet may have in a reader’s life. Talking about it has become a banality, but we’ve got to admit: the role IS big. A good book picked up in the right time can make a teenager quit smoking (unlike parents who always turn up in the wrong time), or provoke a woman to take a new look at her life (and probably run to a hairdresser), or push a shy guy to change his attitude to that bossy boss, or even help an old man stop feeling lonely (really hard task to do).

In this connection, I’ve been thinking about a good writer’s role in a life of another writer. To me, the role is massive, not because we are also readers, as many critics say. No, I dare to argue that.

As soon as you start writing, you never read books with the eyes of a reader anymore. Other writers’ writing bangs into your face every couple of minutes, yelling “This is the way you should have described that storm (that room / that person – whatever)!” Then, as a rule, you grow upset (which is good, because it means you are finally assessing yourself objectively), but you still go on reading and occasionally (only occasionally) you say to yourself, “Well, my scene was not that bad, either-” and then the next stage comes: imitation. Every author goes through this stage. Inevitably. You proceed with your own writing, but the hum from that beautiful book is still very fresh in your mind, and you catch yourself on writing “a bit like that talented guy” It pleases you (because you think you can do it) and irritates you (because it is not totally your writing)- and here the most important moment comes: you either quit writing that stupid story or make a committment to yourself to finish it anyway.

There is just one positive moment in all this process: whether you want this or not, your mind is learning. Yes, this is the nature of the learning process: we analyze what has been done before us and then we go on from there. I daresay, immitation is good. It is just a necessary step towards developing your own writing style. And then, if you are talented, plus inspired, plus patient, plus devilishly hard working (only the four items together, this is a formula!) can bring you to the right result: your own good writing. So, to me a formula of good writing looks like this:

Good Writing = Talent + Inspiration + Hard Work +Patience

Yes, It is as simple as Einstein’s theories. Come on, dear Colleagues, stop reading this stuff! Get back to your work. It is waiting.

bored of writing

Book Previews Service on Amazon.com is great.

Just created and published my first book preview at createspace.com  Not a rocket science, of course, but it gave me that nice feeling of making a little step forward…

Here’s the preview link: https://www.createspace.com/Preview/1180868

Wish my book a lucky journey, please!

Wish me good luck. please!

Romantic Russian Phrase Book available now!

Finally, my Romantic Russian Phrase Book is out on the book shelves waiting to be taken to Russian speaking countries by adventurous travelers who need to know a few words of Russian on their trips. You are welcome to look it up at

or in electronic version, at

You are welcome to contact me and ask any related questions. Enjoy!

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Best illustrations for Russian tales

I just read that “Vasilisa the Beautiful” was published in a new edition for English speakers to enjoy. I remember this tale since the time when I could not read. We had a beautiful book of Russian fairy tales (in Russian, of course, issued by a Soviet publishing house) in memory of a famous old Russia artist Ivan Bilibin, who had illustrated a set of Russian tales in 19-th century. It was a beautiful edition, printed like a series of separate books, each for its tale, bound into a beautiful carton box, also illustrated by Bilibin. Now, looking at those illustrations brings up very sweet memories. The tales were great, all of them, but I was very impressed by the illustrations. My mind image of old Russia was just like those illustrations. I remember looking through those books numerous times, even when I became a teenager.

Bilibin's illustration

Hello world!

Hello, I am happy to start writing this blog, which is going to open a new page in my life: a journey of fiction writing. After spending decades writing research articles and coursebooks for students, believe me, this is a big change. I feel like a bird which finally found its way out of the cage.

I did love what I did before: teaching and research have always been a wonderful world, where I feel at home. But all that work took too much of my time, so I could not focus on writing – the thing which I’d always wanted to do. The time has come now. So, I am out of the cage and can fly! Hello, World of Writing! I am on my way!

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