Leo Tolstoy and His Twitts – 2

A few more phrases by the great thinker Leo Tolstoy: short, and smart, and thought-provoking:

  • I am sure that the sense of life for everyone of us is simply to grow (mature) in love. (Я уверен, что смысл жизни для каждого из нас — просто расти в любви.)
  • It is not enough to be smart to live wisely. (Недостаточно быть умным, чтобы жить умно.)
  • Thinking is the ability to deviate from instincts and realize these deviations. (Ум — способность отклоняться от инстинкта и соображать эти отклонения.)
  • Always look for the best side in people, not the worst. (Ищи в других людях всегда хорошую сторону, а не дурную.)
  • Come up with as many things to keep yourself busy as you can. (Придумывай себе как можно больше занятий.)

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Leo Tolstoy and His Twitts

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If Leo Tolstoy lived today, he would probably sue Twitter for limiting his ability to express his ideas in their full length and beauty… or maybe he would not because, believe it or not, Tolstoy has written hundreds of short, yet astoundingly wise sayings, for which Twitter gurus must envy him. Here are a few of them:

  • Power of one person over another kills the powerful one first. (Власть одного человека над другим губит прежде всего властвующего.)
  • Patriotism is slavery. (Патриотизм есть рабство.)
  • Live your life so that you don’t have to be afraid of death or desire it. (Надо жить так, чтобы не бояться смерти и не желать её.)
  • I am positive that the world is being ruled by insane people. (Я серьезно убежден, что миром правят совсем сумасшедшие.)
  • Do not be afraid of lack of knowledge; be afraid of false knowledge. In it is the root of the world’s evil. (Не бойся незнания, бойся ложного знания. От него все зло.)

I will gladly share more in my future posts. I would not want to overload every poist with information, and these five short statements by the great thinker can “load” one’s mind for all day! Do you agree with me?

What Is So Unique About Slavic Women?

During a whole decade in my past career I had to answer this question so many times that I kind of grew bored of it. But, knowing that majority of my English speaking readers are very interested in the topic, I feel bound to write about it again, this time – surprisingly to myself – with a new, revised vision. Further on in this article I will be using the term “Russian women” as a traditional, internationally accepted name for all Slavic women of Russia, Ukraine, and other former Soviet territories. Some time in the future we can talk about national differences between Slavic women, but here we will only list some common features, which make this large group of women so passionately desired by foreign men and which nurture a whole thriving industry of Russian brides’ related services.

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Okay, first things first:

1. Russian women have been known as incredibly attractive. They are aware of this and they skillfully use beauty to their advantage. I have seen numerous popular and academic articles, providing explanations to the fact, but here, to save time, I suggest that we take this statement as an axiom.

2. Russian women do care about how they look. In addition to just knowing that they are beautiful, they invest time into being beautiful, and they do this all their life long, which develops a certain mindset: they self-develop, self-observe, self-study, self-educate… whatever you call it, the fact is: each Russian woman develops through time, because she cares about how other people see her. Good or bad, this is a fact.

3. Russian women value their femininity, but at the same time, they don’t care for feminism. This paradox can be easily explained: during the Soviet era Russian women were considered 100% equal with men (they were called “tovarisch” (comrade), there were no gender-specific terms, fashion used to be nearly prohibited during the epoch of the USSR, using makeup and being fashionable was nearly equaled to deliberate destruction of socialist morals, etc.), so Russian women had more than enough of it. They were happy when in the early 1990s the Russian society bounced back to “traditional family values” of pre-communist times.

4. Russian (and especially Ukrainian) women are very family oriented. Every woman realizes that she can only be happy when there is a man by her side. They are ready to sacrifice time, energy, and everything they have into building a family. Many of them are open to going out with older men because older men are more serious about family values than skinny young lads, whose only interests are fun, drinking, and sex. Also, Russian women know how to be polite, intelligent, humorous, or nice: again, all these are parts of their family-building “program”.

5. Due to their cultural and historical roots, most of Russian women are very entrepreneurial; each Russian woman is open to building a career, traveling, fulfilling all sorts of her dreams along with being married and having kids.

6. A good news for men is the fact that Russian brides allow men to court them and even more: they like it. She will not be insulted if you open a door in front of her or give her a hand, on the opposite: she expects you to do this. It seems natural for her to accept men’s help and attention, so she wants you to court her, protect her, spoil her, and take care of her. She knows the fact: a man will never truly appreciate a woman he did not invest in, so she gives you a chance to feel masculine and all-mighty in front of her.

7. One more distinctive feature, which is true practically of all Rusian women is their attitude to their families: they put family first above everything else. Don’t ever talk smack about her relatives. If you behave smartly, you will get the same treatment someday, too.

8. Russian women are quite straightforward and are not afraid to vocalize their thoughts. This is a good thing is a relationship: it creates the necessary openness in communication.

9. Russian women are ready to struggle for their happiness: whatever her personal image of happiness is, she will protect it and pursue it like a real warrior, until she gets what the wants.

10. This is an interesting observation about Russians and Ukrainians: if you become a part of her family, her parents will probably care more about you than your own family. Yes, this is true.

11. Most of Russian girls – even the youngest of them – are very smart. A Russian girl is raised to think, act, and live independently. If she wants nice clothes, jewelry, a good bookshelf, and a cozy home, she knows she will have to earn the money to buy those things herself, and that means getting education and job, and then working hard until she gets what she desires.

12. Many Russian women are a tireless hustlers, they know how to work hard, and they are adventurous enough to play hard.

13. Many Russian women are dreamers, and they remain dreamers till the end of their lives. A good dream, when turned into a plan, makes her happy, and even just dreaming of the better future keeps her depression away. Many women are known for being very positive in their approach towards life. She will wear a smile even in the worst situations, just to show her partners and family that everything is good.

We could possibly find more distinguishing features, and if you do, you are welcome to share your thoughts in the comments below. Any discussion of the topic is highly appreciated, because it can lead us all to very exciting ideas and conclusions.

The Faster Millennials Breed, the Less the Book Authors Eat…

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There is an interesting paradox: in the new millennium, again, like in good old days, reading has become a privilege of a few. Centuries ago, the main obstacle to reading was mass illiteracy, so authors knew that their writing could only be appreciated by a thin social group of well educated and relatively wealthy. Today, when everyone can be a potential reader, the authors are facing a problem again: the short era of mass, unlimited reading is over: the millennial generation lacks time. By a trick of fate, the only shortcoming of reading – the fact that it is quite time-consuming – seems to negate all of its precious powers, because in our crazy world time has become the most valuable asset of all.

A good novel takes days (sometimes weeks) to read, while a good movie is visual and fast: a movie “retells” you the longest book in as little as an hour or two, so books can no longer compete with such means of information transfer as television, movies, computer games, or the Internet, which altogether have turned the process of reading into nothing more than a careless time killer. With all the technologies available today, I am surprised that books still remain in vogue at all.

All in all, the authors of new books have to face it: the niche is rapidly thinning. Within a decade or so, reading is going to turn into a special treat, or hobby, appreciated only by the extravagant few, like listening to vinyl records or taking pictures on a film camera.

What does it mean to authors then? I guess two thirds of all authors will be kicked out of business in the nearest few years, while the quality standards for writing will soar up higher and higher.

An opponent might suggest that reading is good for our mind, it develops emotions and feeds our soul, it is undeniably healthier than anything else the technologies can offer… Yes, of course, this is true. Still, the tendency is quite clear: in the 21-st century, reading has become an unaffordable luxury, and the process is only beginning to develop.

With all this in mind, every new author should be realistic and not put all eggs in one basket: making a living by just writing books is hardly a good idea today. Even the most captivating novel may fail to attract the desired number of readers, simply because of the fact: most of them realize that they will never have time to read it.

Writing Fiction Is an Art

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To me, writing fiction has always been equivalent to creating artwork, because it is the art of influencing the personality of your reader, and reading fiction is nothing else but an acquaintance with a new world – the world as it is seen by the author.

Secondly, writing fiction means sharing your vision with others, and sharing is also an art. Like every other art, fiction writing is not supposed to share information – let us leave this to press, television and journalists – it is supposed to provoke emotional reactions, to make the reader feel and suffer.

Gustav Flaubert wrote that the art of writing is the art of discovering what you believe. To me, it is also the art of sharing your vision so masterfully that others could see it your way.

Fiction writing is also the art of working with other people’s imagination, which is a lot more difficult than just working with someone’s logics. To master the art, a good writer must be a little of everything: an artist, a linguist, a psychologist, a philosoper, and just an inspired individual who sees the unique sides of this world and can convey his vision to others.

Annual Best Book Ratings: Objective or Not?

In my opinion, a book should only be rated decades after it was published, when thousands of readers have lived through it and agreed: “this book has changed us”. Today, I would rather rate the books published in the 1990-es, that would be more objective.
Anyway, thanks to Publishers Weekly for the job of putting together and highlighting some information on the most recent publications for us. With all the mass of books being published every year, it is becoming almost impossible to pick out really good books without the help of such ratings.

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Blogging Is an Introvert’s Torture

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Blogging is a real torture for me as an incurable introvert.

(Here comes a 15-minute break sipping cold coffee and blankly looking at the line above.)

No. Blogging is not my strong side.

(5 more minutes of heavy thinking here.)

It feels like talking to a wall when you have to share your thoughts to a blog instead of chatting with a real audience. Having spent decades working with large and small groups of people every day, I am used to seeing people’s faces and receiving immediate reaction to everything I say. But blogging makes me feel like I have a sleeping patch on my eyes and a helmet over my ears. I must confess: to me, there is nothing cool about sharing my thoughts to invisible audiences. I guess, I am a bit old-fashioned here.

Robert E McGinnis and the Secret of The New Cover — Neil Gaiman’s Journal

I’ve loved Robert McGinnis’s covers for a very long time. I remember the first one I was aware of (it was the cover of Ian Fleming’s James Bond book DIAMONDS ARE FOREVER, when I was about 9. They put the film poster on the book cover, which puzzled me a bit because the plot of…

via Robert E McGinnis and the Secret of The New Cover — Neil Gaiman’s Journal

Writing Can Be Taught

Today, I have been reading “Plot and Structure” by J.S.Bell again. In introduction, the author says that he had wasted decades of his time not writing because since childhood he had been told that to be a writer one must be born with it (the gift of writing). He had also been told that writing couldn’t be taught. J.S.Bell writes,”I started to believe it. I figured I didn’t have it and never would. So I did other stuff. Like go to law school. Like join a law firm. Like give up my dream. But the itch to write would not go away. At age thirty-four, I read an interview with a lawyer who’d had a novel published. And what he said hit me in my lengthy briefs. He said he’d had an accident and was almost killed. In the hospital, given a second chance at life, he decided the one thing he wanted was to be a writer. And he would write and write, even if he never got published because that was what he wanted. Well, I wanted it, too.”

Al this sounds sadly familiar to me, and I am sure there are thousands of other people around the world facing the same fact: they never tried writing because they did not believe in themselves, and because everybody around kept convincing them that writing is a wrong way to choose. As well as music, and arts, and any other “impractical” occupations, by the way.

Still, those who are strong enough to overcome their shyness and finally do start writing, as well as those who are quite experienced – all need to learn. My strong belief is that one CAN learn how to write, moreover, it is as complicated as every other intellectual occupation, so it MUST be learned. It is never late to learn and there is never enough of learning. To me, a picture like the one below, is not an evidence of a writer’s failure. It is the evidence of a learning process, which is awesome.

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Writing In the First Person

Iryna Tymchenko's avatarShare love. Educate. Inspire.

I just read a nice article by Mia Botha The Pros and Cons of Writing in First Person at Writers Write. Mia feels there is no right or wrong in this question, but there are pros and cons, which depend on the writer.

I agree: full responsibility for deciding how to write the book lies on the writer.

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On the one hand, it gives you as an author unlimited access to the character’s thoughts and feelings, but it also limits you in describing thoughts and feelings of other characters. Writing in the first person sets out the main character, opposes him/her to everyone else. It is up to the author to decide whether to allow this to happen or not.

In her article Mia notes, and this is a great observation, that writing in first person gives the author a deeper insight into the main characters’ thinking process, but at the same time, it limits the…

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